Any self-aware man who was once really bad with women knows that shaming women for their sexuality is a way to deal with the frustration of not being a part of it.Accepting the fact that you’re just a lonely confused guy is too hard, so it’s just easier to rationalize that the girl kissing her boyfriend in the street is just a slut.In the United States, if two strangers are walking by each other, it’s common to say “hello,” “good morning,” or “how are you! It’s not that they don’t like you, it’s that they have no practice talking to strangers and it’s outside of their reality.Even when a girl really likes you, her automatic response may be negative.In Asia, there’s a lot of shame surrounding intimacy that is so damaging and dysfunctional Many Asian girls are programmed to suppress their interest in sex and intimacy, hide it or deny it.If they display or admit at all that they want or even like sex or touch, they risk being seen as a “slut” — in Japan they’re called a “bitch” or in China/HK, a “public toilet.” Their sense of self is at risk, and their reputation is at risk if they show an interest in sex.These challenges can be common with Asian girls, and is a virtual certainty with native Asian girls.Not all Asian cultures are the same, but most have commonalities that are similar or consistent in most.
I’d browse video game forums, digg, 4chan, and many others — one thing I’d hear from time to time is that Fast forward to my first time actually going to Asia, and this “it’s easy for white guys” mantra was even said by the manager (a Japanese man) of the guest house I was going to be living in. He basically said, Two of my friends were tall, good looking and fit guys — like with abs and everything. After each night we’d all hang out in the “common room” at our guest house and talk about our night, and this was really fun because it was like a mastermind group. I was having fun and did meet a lot of awesome girls.
One really shocking aspect of Asia you’ll encounter as a “white guy” is racism.
Not subtle racism either — ‘Koreans only’ signs in Korea, being denied entry into a club for not being the local ethnicity, having people stereotype you as having AIDS because you’re white or girls refusing to walk with you in public out of fear of looking dirty.
Even if one argues it’s “easier” for a white guy in some aspects, there are definitely many “great walls” that make it very “not easy” and therefore offset the alleged advantage.: Although it’s not always the case, anyone who’s approached or attempted to date Asian girls has been faced with language barrier issues.
Language is something all of us take fully for granted, and attempting to approach, date, or seduce a girl who speaks little or *no* english is the furthest thing imaginable from “easy”.